Different reality sets in for everyone (well most people) when you're clocking old adulthood, suddenly, you start paying for the mistakes you made why in your young adulthood. It's a stage of life that flashes back. It's like hell revealing your mistakes. The regrets of the choices you've made. How you've lived. That's why it's a stage of life where people transform the most.
It's a stage of life where you have to be deliberate and truly reflect. You're not old, but you're not young either. All your mistakes are obvious now. All the good ones should be obvious too:
— The good choices you’ve made.
— Listening to yourself instead of society or your parents.
— Your health that you didn’t care about may now be seeking your attention.
— The junkies you’ve consumed may have now made you stand out.
— The relationship you could have kept.
— The career you could have explored.
— The fun and places you could have visited, and counting…
When you're in your young adulthood you should really be living. Yeah, live! To the fullest. Exploring. Changing. Adapting. Your business is not to fully form an opinion or give advice on something you don't fully understand but to live an actual fulfil life, go out with friends, and do crazy sh!@t. If you do have an opinion express it in a way that's not rigid, in a form of seeking. In a manner that conveys that you truly want to learn something by sharing, not to educate others.
The best form of teaching is by learning yourself. When you share what you have learned you are indirectly teaching too. In this manner, you’re not forming a strong opinion and enforcing it on others, you’re simply educating yourself.
Because whatever opinion you form in your young adulthood is purely influenced either by friends, family, or guardians — and if you get it from what you've been reading there's likely a contradiction somewhere that's very valid too.
Be a Xenophora —
Xenophora is an anomaly seashell. It's an organism that collects discarded shells and uses them for camouflage.
Why Xenophora? It’s because they’re unique, they’re not an individual but a collective of shells. It means to be formless, and shape yourself accordingly. Explore, don’t be rigid.
The old adulthood stage is the real-time for reflection, sharing, and teaching because your old adulthood comes with solitude, and definitely some clarity based on the information and experience you've gathered, your levels of thinking at this stage has evolved. That's when you make important choices. And it's why it is hard to make decisions at this stage too because there's enough data to contradict the wisest choice. Don't judge what you can become at your young age until you fully get to that road, your old adulthood.
This applies to careers as well, read, be a generalist, try painting, writing, music, design, choreography, acting... dancing, etc. Explore different plots of activities.
The idea is to explore until you find a particular thing that makes you tick. It could be an activity you've been neglecting for a while or something you tried out when you were in your childhood.
You'd often later realize that everything you think is black are actually white, as you get to a certain maturity, and vice versa.
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